Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean fighting back or being aggressive. Instead do your best to STAY CALM and TRY TO APPEAR AS IF THE BULLYING WORDS OR ACTIONS AREN’T HURTING YOU. Look as calm and confident as you can. We know this can be incredibly difficult, but kids bully to get a reaction from of those they are bullying. The more you react, the more they will continue to harass you. When you act assertively (and not aggressively) by telling them to stop or ignoring them and then walking away, over time they will loose interest in bullying you. You may have to do this a few times, but eventually, once they sees they are having no effect on you, not getting attention or that their behaviour is not gaining respect from others, they will stop. You can also do your best to avoid those bullying. Stick with friends who treat you with kindness and respect.
Of course if the bullying becomes physical or the bullying gets to be too much for you to handle on your own GET HELPfrom an adult.
If you are being bullied by a group of students this can be especially painful. We all want nothing more than to fit in and feel part of a group. Unfortunately in most cases, the more you try to join the group of students that is excluding you, the more they will push back and leave you out. As much as this hurts, again it’s important that you STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If a group is leaving you out, it may be time to look for new friends.
Find out if there are school-run clubs or activities you can take part in over recess, lunch or after school. Look for another group of students playing together and ask if you can join them. Ask your parents if you can join an after-school club in your community. There are lots of ways to make new friends who won’t make you feel bad.
As with other forms of bullying, by ignoring those who bully, eventually they will stop. Kids treat others meanly to get a reaction and to get attention from their friends and bystanders. Once they see that you no longer care (or at least appear to no longer care) they will stop.
Nobody deserves to be bullied. Even though you may be different others, remember it’s differences that make people interesting. If we were all the same, life would be boring. Each and every student has something to offer. We’re all STARSin our own way!
So if you are being bullied, remember:
|2.||Try to hide your feelings and appear brave|
|3.||Avoid or ignore the bully|
|4.||React assertively (and not aggressively)|
|5.||Stick with good friends|
However, if the bullying gets worse or you are finding it difficult to manage on your own, no matter how hard you try, you need to GET HELP from a trusted adult.
When you ask for help, be sure to clearly describe:
|•||Exactly what happened|
|•||When and how often it has happened|
|•||Where the bullying took place|
|•||Who was involved|
|•||Who else saw it happen|
|•||What action you have taken, if any|